I went through 2 knee surgeries on my right knee, it took about 5 years to get back to walking with out thinking about every step.
And yes, I had to do a lot of attitude adjustment with the doctor to get the second surgery and to get him to back way off on the physical "therapy".
Things like "drain the fluid off my knee now or I will do it myself at home" were not uncommon.
It takes time, no way to rush the healing process.
I hope you can get it all figured out and taken care of. '22