If anyone gets a prayer.....it would be you and all of those with similar trouble. My thing is....I've lost complete faith in society and structured religion. I still believe God will sort everything out in time. I've just seen too many things to give anything positive. On one hand....as a dad...I might feel inclined to just let go...and tell her she is on her own....maybe then she will ditch the guy. On the other hand....she might be more inclined to go back to him thinking its her only way out. Its a catch 22 for sure. My heart itself goes out to you, your family, and your daughter. I am sorry this ever happened to you and yours. Just one little piece of advice....I'm sure your beating yourself up over this....please remember.....you only play a minor role in her raising.....the rest is dictated by her surroundings....society as a whole....(our legal system, our childrens teachers in schools, what is on the tele, all of the things that society seems to take as acceptable). I guess what I am saying is dont be too hard on yourself and just be there for her. Thank goodness she is okay....if a person can concider that she is.

If he is truely bi-polar....your problems may not be over. Please keep a watchful eye. A little scenario: I too was living a life that I see now...was not desirable. I was raised as a normal young man....grew up with good role models....went to church....fell in love. And instantly felt the wieght of the world on my shoulders to provide for my family after being wed. It seems...it was just too dang much at times. I didnt physically harm my ex-wife....but the two of us together threatened each other mentally like soo many others. After being married 16 years....she left....and let me tell you....I freaked out!!!! Turns out....I am bi-polar...obsessive compulsive... with attention deficite. My parents beat themselves up wondering..."what happened to the quiet, friendly young man that you were soo many years ago". Well....I just dont know. In my own defense.....my wife never...I repeat...never left me with the feeling that she could be trusted. I believe the marriage was over before it ever started. I could say I wish I never met her....but then I wouldnt have two wonderful boys. Guess what I am saying is....please do what you can to convince her that she doesnt need the guy. There are soo many guys out there for her. Let her read this if you wish. If there is a next time....it might be the last. This is as emotional as I can get. I'm emotionally drained now. On another note: I am married again....to a wonderful woman...of whom I love very much...and know that she loves me. I wish the best for all of you!

Dave