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My daughter was battered by her boyfriend . Not the blackeye or bloody nose like most . He beat her hard enough that he cracked her eye sockets and her frontal lobe above her nose (skull) and pushed her nose in her face over a 1/4 inch . The damage was so exstint it took 4 hours of reconstuctive sugery to correct it .

This is not even the bad part . She is protecting him saying it was a accident and they were just playing around . How can love at the age of 21 be so blind .

She has dated this kid since she was 15 he is bi polar and i seen his anger . I did everything i could do as a parent to stop the relationship and try to get her to break up with out coming right out and saying it . I am a very strict father and held her to the house rules even to the curfews i set .

The law says they are tied unless she files charges also . He did admit it to Detective he did it and used same story , I sure hope they have a loop hole and nail this kid . I mean i look at this as bad as being shot . He is dangerous and needs prison time . A little more harder punch the Surgeon said she would have been dead .

His mother placed him in a pshyc ward he said he would committ suicide . Copout is all that is . If your going to committ suicide you dont tell anyone you just do it .


When we brought her home from Hospital my wife and I are useing tough love and telling her the only way she can live with us is press charges . She is still fighting us on this saying she dont want to press charges . His family is trying to get her to let him move away but you cant live far enough away to correct the wrong he did . Prison may make him worse but not my problem is it ? I am serious on this decision also , i will have her cuffed and removed from my house to prove this also .

She starts her college on monday for Vet Tech and she has worked on getting in program for 2 yrs allready in school . This is the only thing i have to fight with telling her she will lose this and have nothing from us .


So please pray that after she looks in the mirror enough she see's that this isn't right and follows through .

Bob,

My heartfelt prayers go out to you and your family. If your daughter was under the age of 21, you as a parent can press charges against her boyfriend. Regardless of whether or not he is bi polar (if he is not being treated and he has been diagnosed then it's reckless endangerment) he is responsible for his actions until proven otherwise in a court of law. If he is below 21 years old, then his parents can be held responsible and he could be commited with court approval against his will. My advice is to at the very least file a police report and let them sort it out.


Wish you the best of luck.


Bill S.

Oh yes the police are allready involved i called them immediatly . I had no hesitation . He is over 21 also . zMy 2 sons went rampage and made the visit but police were called and thank god they havent been arrested yet . Glad they didn't get in and hurt him .

You got 'em Bobby. I pray you can get through to her and she heeds the wake up call.

That's rough, my thoughts and prayers too.

Send prayers up for your family. IMHO....I would speak with the DA about get charges filed. If not a restraining order.

Keep working on her Bobby... Nobody should be allowed to be free when they do aomething like that to a girl..... Prayers are with you all.

Prayers go out to you and your family! Please don't take this the wrong way but being a 2nd Degree BlackBelt in Kyokushin Karate and the owner of 3 tactical shotguns, it scares me about how I personally would have reacted.

Keep trying to convince her to press charges so that kid can get some help

Pat

you have my prayers and sympathy. As a child that watched my mother get beat just as badly I can testify that you never get over it. I watched my father once stomp my mom to the point that he caused to miscarry. I was beaten severly but never where some one walking past me would notice. It does not get any better until you get away from someone like that. I asked my mom years later why she put up with it. She said that at the time she acutally thought that she deserved it. That he was always sorry later and would make it better. She later discovered that she was clinicly depressed and needed treatment. I would get your daughter if you can to talk to someone. I know that you love her dearly but she has to feel that she is deserving of true love to stand up for herself and tell the cops the truth. I am now in a fantastic relationship with my husband of 15 years. He never has once raised his hand to me no matter how much I have angered him. But he also knows that if he ever hit me he better run. Your daughter deserves so much better. My email is jyardgirl@hotmail.com if she ever wants to talk to someone.

I am very sorry to hear this Bobby, Ive been right in your shoes and was waiting for the cops to come and get me before. Luckily he took my after beating threat to heart. But it solved nothing either, she kept going back to him for more broken promises and now more controlled beatings, without leaving marks and bruises. Now this jackazz is sitting in prison for another 2 years for attempted murder, but guess who still visits this pile of crap, ya she does. I am sorry to say It will never end until you convince her to get away from him, and thats harder then you think. Again I feel your pain, sorry !

God bless everyone and thank you .

jyard she refused counsling in the hospital and right now i'm a wreck . I won't give up .

Pat i know what comes to mind but im trying to be strong as to keep the rest of family together me in prison will not do that .

I certainly admire your restraint, Bobby...... Though you are of course 100% correct, I'm afraid they would of already locked me up for doing the payback........

Bobby, I'm so sorry to hear this, I will have my wife to put your daughter on the prayer list at the Ministry center where she works. I will call her as soon as I finish my best wishes for her to be ok.

My daughter married a jerk, and he knows what will happen if he hurts her.

These guys should be taken out back with a person twice their size and have them beaten to within an inch of their life. I'll talk to you later giving thoughts and prayer but for now. I'm having her put on the Sister's prayer list that goes all over the World. God bless her and keep you and your wife strong for her.

Richard

Sorry to hear this happened! I do not believe i could keep as calm about it, but your right in your thoughts. Let me know if a little trip to the everglades is in order for him!

bi-polar is no excuse.my wife is bi-poloar.will have to be medicated for the rest of her life.she never acts like that.infact most of her outbursts are from fear,not anger.i do know what you would like to do,but dont do it.try to keep your sons away from him ,IF YOU CAN,brothers and dads have a rite to protect their loved ones.be patient,your chance will come,just use your heads.i dont pray much,but when i do i mean it.mine are with you all the way.oh yea,where does this dude live?geezer69