Thread: Spanking vs Tough love

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LOL's. The 'Human Rights Activists' are going to be watching you now! LOL's.

I guess with me....and watching others....I'm not going to be a judge of discipline. I've seen kids that shouldve got a good wailing early in life to keep them in line......and kids that did get the wailing and still ending up being a menace to society. You just never know. There's no guarantee.

I believe in corporal punishment. My son's dont fear me....yet they both respect me, as do I respect my father. My thing is....I dont punish in anger. I wait until I can collect myself.....and later confront them. I cant remember the last time I had to use it on my boy's.

But some kiddo's.....holy cow......my two year old step daughter is teaching me all about the term 'terrible two's'. My wife laughs when I tell her my boys didnt go thru this stage.....but I'm being serious. Grey hairs are starting to grow on my bald head!

Dave G

My mother frequently used an old time razor strap on my back side when we are around home. Out in public she just used the palm of her hand. Both were effective at getting the message across. I do believe that sparing the rod spoils the child and I do not but much weight on the liberals feelings that child punishment should be all mental and not physical. A good warming of one's but from time to time when the infraction deserves it is the right course of action.

My daughter got her little butt warmed twice by me (lost count by my wife). She turned out a good kid, although a little spoiled. The way I see some kids act in public, I sometimes thing the parents are the ones that should get the spanking.

Originally Posted by mopar34

My mother frequently used an old time razor strap on my back side when we are around home. Out in public she just used the palm of her hand. Both were effective at getting the message across. I do believe that sparing the rod spoils the child and I do not but much weight on the liberals feelings that child punishment should be all mental and not physical. A good warming of one's but from time to time when the infraction deserves it is the right course of action.

My daughter got her little butt warmed twice by me (lost count by my wife). She turned out a good kid, although a little spoiled. The way I see some kids act in public, I sometimes thing the parents are the ones that should get the spanking.

I'm with you Mopar! In reality.....physical is mental. Really not much difference. Physical just re-inforces the mental. I've seen people that can do more damage mentally with the words they use. It just depends on whether they degrade a child....or serve as a hint of proper behavior. My mother use to use the metal end of a flyswatter when she was reaaaal madd!!! She feels bad now....but I know she did it out of anger....and probably fear for what I'd become. Believe me.....I deserved it at times!

Dave G

One thing that is harder about not being physical with a punishment is that you have to get very creative to get your point across. Our three boys came out of foster care and due to their past we don't use the board of education on them even though I would love to from time to time. We did however find a loop hole in being physical. Pinches That works pretty good for our situation especially when you tell them " Your going to get pinched and hard too, come here and get it " You almost don't even have to pinch them anymore at that point In public a outburst leading them by the ears works well also. After any punishment we always make sure there is a hug afterwards, gotta make sure that they know that you love them.

Our Socialist Government in New Zealand has made any form of physical punishment illegal......to the detriment of kid's behaviour.
We were firm believers in a pat on the back for all our kids; often enough, hard enough, and low enough.
My five year old granson knows I can't spank him, and man does he play on it!
He's naughty for the sake of being naughty......the other day he ran through the shrubbery at the super-market car-park stomping on and ripping out everything he could.....and laughing at me when I tried to stop him.
When I finally got him into the car, and out of town, to hell with the do-gooders, I dragged him out of the car and cave him a couple of clips around the backside.
BUT..... if someone had seen me, I would certainly been in trouble with the law. But now he knows he can't push me too far!

That is funny. I see kids I would like to do that to sometimes. Seriously, I have seen both sides and prefer not spanking. I have administered the "learn-ed thump" to many a noggin though. Seldom does it take more than one and it doesn't leave a mark.

Originally Posted by willowbilly3

That is funny. I see kids I would like to do that to sometimes. Seriously, I have seen both sides and prefer not spanking. I have administered the "learn-ed thump" to many a noggin though. Seldom does it take more than one and it doesn't leave a mark.

I remember well the "learn-ed thump". My Dad as we boys got older would use it on us if we were getting out of line. He always wore this big 'ol U.S.Navy ship ring---I think I still have bumps on my head from that thing

Originally Posted by G.R.

I remember well the "learn-ed thump". My Dad as we boys got older would use it on us if we were getting out of line. He always wore this big 'ol U.S.Navy ship ring---I think I still have bumps on my head from that thing

Funny, I just had a vision of the Jack Elam character in Cannonball Run. He held up a huge middle finger and said "seldom need more than this". That was for a different reason but same tool.lol