That is a horrible situation Steve, but unfortunately, one that is becoming all too common anymore. The days when Mom was like apple pie and the glue that held the family together are pretty much gone. I am not putting it all on the Wives, because men cheat also, but a lot of guys are finding themselves in a situation where they thought they were doing all the right stuff, and yet come to find out their Spouse is playing around on them. I know that scenario from personal experience. Not sure what happened to loyalty in this world, but the 60 percent divorce rate are a testament to something being very wrong any more.

As for your Brother not reacting as you think he should, that is a tough nut. Everyone around him can see what is happening and what is going to happen, but he is somewhat in denial. Maybe he is sort of a pushover or maybe he feels he just wants to salvage this thing. Love is a funny, weird emotion. However, you are probably right on her motives and goals, and it must be very frustrating for you.........you probably want to shake him REAL HARD. When I was going through it, my best friend told me "If you ever consider going back to her I will personally beat the hell out of you!" I knew he was saying that because he truly cared about me and what was going on.

But sometimes we have to let people make their own beds, as much as we want to keep them from being hurt. I used to work with a girl who was in a physically abusive relationship, and we all liked her. Our Manager and I sat her down one day when she came into work with some bruises she got "when she tripped and fell" . We told her, "you don't have to live like this" and her reaction was "well, I do things to make him mad!! We both looked at each other like she was from another planet.

All you can do Steve is be there and support him and try to offer advice. It's a slippery slope though because sometimes they blame you for trying to interfere in their relationship. We know you love your Brother, it is obvious, but at least he made it home alive from Iraq, so that is the really important thing here. Houses and cars he might lose in a divorce will come and go, lot's of us have been down that road. I wish him well.

Don