Thread: Father Son Project..........NOT.....

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Dlotraf33,
Its nothing you did or said, just youth being youth.
Coming from a "sons" point of view and having shared a "hot rod" obsession with my brother and dad for our whole lives (Dan and I are 40 now) I can tell you that pops never forced us to be part of this crazy car thing. The one thing pops did right was he never forced us into liking exactly what he loved. Dan and I have been into boats, musclecars, hot rods, and even lowriders and dad just supported it and helped anywhere he could. (parts, time, etc). dan and I are both musicians (as dad was in his youth) and he supported us from 6th grade until today (heck he just came out to a gig the other night to support me). Instead of buying me a new car when I was 16 pops bought me a running AMC Hornet wagon to drive. it needed upkeep and he taught me how. He also bought me a 65 Olds convertable to restore. I spent everynight in the garage workin on her. We "eventually" came around to hot rods and have loved it ever since.

I guess you need to find a way to support the hobbies they embrace (sounds like you have done that all along, nice job) Perhaps the son will come around or perhaps not. I say just try to support the positive hobbies they have.

Awesome about the daughter wanting to learn about welding, etc. While not traditionally a womans hobby who cares? It is really about spending time together. Fantastic for you and your daughter What a great dad you must be to make her want to be with you in the garage doing something girls don't normally do!

Dont worry about your son too much, I would worry about the smoking though as that can get you in big trouble but it seems smoking green is par for the course these days. If he likes fishing go fishing. Dad and I love fishing together and I just took dad fishing the other day (payment for helping me put two new small block Chevys down in the bilge a few years ago, I owe him many more trips)

Todays computerized world has changed children and the youth forever in my opinion. Instead of being hands on in the garage most of todays youth are hands on in their laptop... signs of the times I'm afraid. Be happy your family is healthy and together. Sorry so long winded.
Don Jr.

don jr. thanks for what you have said. it gives me my sons point of view.

Barb,
Seems to me a place to stay and warm meals is all the payment your son should need. Crazy to think you have to pay for the help and adding your injury into the mix he should be there for you in my humble opinion.
Don Jr.

i agree don. i chalk it off that he is 17 and i seem to be the enemy some days. part of him growing up.

Keep the faith Barb. I went through a phase (about 13 or 14 I think) where I did not want anything to do with my family. I was getting into girls and little else mattered. I think being 17 today is much harder. Perhaps the Astro Van needs some of your touches?

Originally Posted by Mr Blue

Barb,
Seems to me a place to stay and warm meals is all the payment your son should need. Crazy to think you have to pay for the help and adding your injury into the mix he should be there for you in my humble opinion.
Don Jr.

Yeah, what he said.

thanks tech. but i do not know what to do with him some days. he is a good kid but he seems to like to push my buttons. and there are days that i push back verbally. but when it comes to my car and him helping me it is a battle. so i figure out how i can do things by myself. when it is done and he wants to take it somewhere i am going to charge him for the privelege. then when he complains i am going to tell him that if he had helped me when i needed him the ride would be free. but since he charged me for the work i am returning the favor. and he will want to drive it as there will be nothing like the monte around here.

Originally Posted by jyardgirl

thanks tech. but i do not know what to do with him some days. he is a good kid but he seems to like to push my buttons. and there are days that i push back verbally. but when it comes to my car and him helping me it is a battle. so i figure out how i can do things by myself. when it is done and he wants to take it somewhere i am going to charge him for the privelege. then when he complains i am going to tell him that if he had helped me when i needed him the ride would be free. but since he charged me for the work i am returning the favor. and he will want to drive it as there will be nothing like the monte around here.

Just as long as it doesn't get wrapped around a phone pole or rip the side out of another vehicle. Been there, done that, just ask tech

as far as i have heard in my small town charlie is a excellent driver. he goes just below the speed limit and takes off at stop lights like he has some sense. now what he will do in the monte is yet to be seen.

Same story here,3 boys,3 girls.oldest (boy) just turned 36,youngest (boy) will turn 21 in August. I make all of the boys do their own repairs with my guidance although none of em are what you could call mechanics, but at least I think they could get by without having to pay a mechanic when I'm gone. None of em would have anything to do with going out to the shop to help me or learn. And every one of em when they started into their teens seemed to think I was the dumbest SOB on earth. But I look back to when I was a teen and remember I didn't want to hang with or help my Dad either, it just wasn't kewl. Back when they lived at home trying to get them to do something around the house that involved work was like pulling teeth,although now I could call em up to help with something and they would be right over, cept that youngest one whos still living @ home. He still requires a club to the head every once in a while. Far as the weed, it befugles the hell out of me why you can buy a 5th of whiskey, but go to jail over a joint.