Hotrod i could not let you jeopordize your family for mine but tickets are easy
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Hotrod i could not let you jeopordize your family for mine but tickets are easy
Ted thank you
your main concern,like all of us is to protect your family.you guys watch this creep.if he steps one foot in the wrong place,nail his ass.hell,we all know hes dangerous.your daughter is freaked out rite now.give her some time to think.surely she will come around to what has happened.he'll probably be locked up somewhere for a while anyway.stay on top of things and good luck.man i hate this kind of behavior.
the problem with boys that hit women is that they have never been in a fight with another man...they do not know what they are doing actually feels like...one way or another...sooner or later...he will pay...i know that is not much confort now but it is true...
stay strong
your in my prayers
Thoughts and prayers are out for you. I cannot imagine this happening to one of my girls. This is why good son in laws are hard to find.
cnile words well written
scooter Thank you
48 i knew he was a angry kid but i really never believed he would ever do something to this exstint .
Not to profile because i believe that is wrong but he is from a broken home where i believe drugs and heavy alcohol use was there . Ive have seen his mother leave the man she was living with in a stabil inviorment to just find another she was a bar tender . She now has finished school and is a RN . This i have seen for over 6 years .
The Prayers worked everyone this morning my daughter told the real story God Bless her . This is a major step to her recovery and a peacefull life . I really want to thank everyone so much and i would hug everyone if i could . You prayers and thoughts have worked to a major level . I have allways considered this site to be more then just a hobbist site and more like brothers and sisters who live in a different area .
She has started her road to a adult life and im am so excited i want to scream for joy . This really shows her love for us and i think the trust she knows that is available to her 24 -7
jyardgirl i sent her your addy in a email i hope she contacts you and i believe she will . I told her about what i did and the outpour of support everyone has given .
thats great news bobby.faith and a prayer.it does work.this is probably one of the worst things you'll ever go through.looks like things are looking better for all of you now.i hope this will make her stronger in some way.heres a BIG heartfelt hug from all of us.may god bless all of you.geezer69
hell change the mom to stripper or fan dancer in this is my bio! :cool:Quote:
Originally Posted by bluestang67
its not an excuse , you either get over it or climb under it , my case was get above it .. the situation with your daughter is not right and just because he was raised with a screwed up moral compass is not an excuse..
She is as smart as her Daddy it sounds like to me, we here will be praying for all of you to be able to move on and have great lives without fear, it is very possible. Good luck Bobby
that is great. she can email me any time. I am always here and would love to talk to her about anything she wants to talk about. I have a degree as a veternarian assistant so we could talk about that also. I am thrilled for you and your family.
Im happy for the small step she has taken, im still praying for a happy ending.
After thinking a little it would not be benificial to hurt him now, it would be way to suspicious at this piont, but if the cops do not take care of this, you know where im at!!!
Bobby this is wonderful news. My wife and I were so sad hearing what happened. Until the victim, stops being a victim, there is really nothing anyone else can do to change their behavior. I am very happy for your family, and hope that justice is swift. Jyard very good of you to help too!
Bobby, she has been brave, and I applaud her, these guys instill fear in their girl friends/wife's. My daughter’s husband said he would hurt anyone who would try to break up his marriage, we have been trying for nine years, and he knows what will happen if he does. My daughter’s husband is a member of this site but all he does is lurk and when he sees my post he will be more aware that I mean what I say… I tell my daughter he has nothing to worry about unless he hurts her!!!!!
This guy that mercilessly beat your daughter will feel her pain in time when the justice system works, like one member said the guys in prison have sisters also. I believe in prayer but I have a limit to what I can turn the other cheek to.
God bless your daughter, and your family for what you are going through, and to recover.
Richard
Bobby, glad things are starting to turn around, but prayers will not stop. thanks for sharing. jim.
God knew what he was doing when he gave me 3 sons, because if I had a daughter and this happened to her I would correct his bi-polar for him.
My wife and I are both in the medical field, if you have any medical questions/advice feel free to ask.
Your family will be in my prayers.
my prayers are with her and your family
Thank you all so much again i know we still have alot to find out and to get her healed emotionally and physically .
jyardgirl her dream to get this schooling is something i think will show her if it happened again she would be out of the program she worked so hard to get to .
I read your post this morning and have thought about you alot today, I am soo happy for you and your daughter that she has now told the truth about what happend. I will still keep you in our prayers and also thank the Lord that he has opened her eyes.
Thank You 53
Happy to see things are turning around, Bobby. My prayers are with you and her for continued progress.
:( me too
Wow Bobby, I just read this thread, and I am so sorry for you, your family, and your Daughter. From what I understand, women who allow this to go on suffer from some self esteem issues. They somehow feel they deserve the treatment they get.
I worked with a terrific girl who was in an abusive situation. She would come to work with black eyes, broken ribs, etc, and always had some excuse, like she fell while getting off a boat..............we knew better. One day the Manager and I sat her down and told her she didn't have to live like that, she was a great person and deserved better. Her excuse was " well, I make him mad sometimes, so it is as much my fault as his."
We both looked at each other in amazement, because it had gone right over her head. My friend said to me after the meeting, "you could line up 100 guys on a field, and she would gravitate to the one loser in the bunch and ignore the 99 nice guys."
Bobby, there are groups that address spouse abuse. I would suggest you FORCE her to go, because if he is that violent you have no way of knowing what his next act toward her might be. If you have to Baker Act her, or some other means, just do it.
Don
Don thank you Glad your home safe after driving all that way with those goodies on the trailer .
She kinda volunteered to get counsling I'm hoping this is sinking in now and she her self is relizing the outcome . She is a very smart girl but this only boyfriend she ever had love i think has her confused at the moment . He was more of the controlling type but this battery was extreme and really came fast to us all . I agree plenty of great people out there .
As with many problems, the first step is admitting that there is one... Still praying her recovery will be complete physically, mentally, and emotionally....
(and hoping his prison sentence will be long and miserable).......Oh well, I still have some healing to do, too.......:LOL: :LOL: :LOL:
If anyone gets a prayer.....it would be you and all of those with similar trouble. My thing is....I've lost complete faith in society and structured religion. I still believe God will sort everything out in time. I've just seen too many things to give anything positive. On one hand....as a dad...I might feel inclined to just let go...and tell her she is on her own....maybe then she will ditch the guy. On the other hand....she might be more inclined to go back to him thinking its her only way out. Its a catch 22 for sure. My heart itself goes out to you, your family, and your daughter. I am sorry this ever happened to you and yours. Just one little piece of advice....I'm sure your beating yourself up over this....please remember.....you only play a minor role in her raising.....the rest is dictated by her surroundings....society as a whole....(our legal system, our childrens teachers in schools, what is on the tele, all of the things that society seems to take as acceptable). I guess what I am saying is dont be too hard on yourself and just be there for her. Thank goodness she is okay....if a person can concider that she is.
If he is truely bi-polar....your problems may not be over. Please keep a watchful eye. A little scenario: I too was living a life that I see now...was not desirable. I was raised as a normal young man....grew up with good role models....went to church....fell in love. And instantly felt the wieght of the world on my shoulders to provide for my family after being wed. It seems...it was just too dang much at times. I didnt physically harm my ex-wife....but the two of us together threatened each other mentally like soo many others. After being married 16 years....she left....and let me tell you....I freaked out!!!! Turns out....I am bi-polar...obsessive compulsive... with attention deficite. My parents beat themselves up wondering..."what happened to the quiet, friendly young man that you were soo many years ago". Well....I just dont know. In my own defense.....my wife never...I repeat...never left me with the feeling that she could be trusted. I believe the marriage was over before it ever started. I could say I wish I never met her....but then I wouldnt have two wonderful boys. Guess what I am saying is....please do what you can to convince her that she doesnt need the guy. There are soo many guys out there for her. Let her read this if you wish. If there is a next time....it might be the last. This is as emotional as I can get. I'm emotionally drained now. On another note: I am married again....to a wonderful woman...of whom I love very much...and know that she loves me. I wish the best for all of you!
Dave
Bobby- I just read this and it is a perfect example that prayer does work. My daughter is a social worker at an abused womens shelter in KC. I know that isn't handy for you but I'm certain that they would be happy to send you and/or your daughter some helpful information on your situation. Just PM or E-Mail me and I will set it up. Hang in there and we will all continue to pray for your family.
.....God Bless you & your family Bobby. I'm praying for you guys..... I know a girl who just the other day got beaten up by her boy friend & the NEXT day she was back with him!!! Bill
She is refusing to press charges . She said his mother is buying a ticket to send him to california to live with sister .
Well we couldn't throw her out like we said with tough love . I will say her spoiled life is over completely though . All she will get from us is what she needs to survive nothing more like her previous life has been .
I really thank everyone for there thoughts it has helped me so much .
You and yours have my best wishes in recovering and hopefully it works out this beast gets what's coming to him. It's a shame the authorities can be so impotent... for even the most reasonable person it is hard not to consider taking matters into one's own hands... if it were me I don't know I could keep from landing myself behind bars. Hang in there and try not to let it consume you... your daughter may come around to the right course of action.
-Chris
Thanks skid
Cant wait to see pinks might get that glimpse
I know this is tough for you and her. I hope she changes her mind or he will likely hurt some else in the future. His parents may think this solves the problem, but what he did was wrong and he will do it again. In a few months he may decide to come back, and it may all start up again. Unfortunately sending him away solves nothing. Your in our prayers.
Stove he only has a mother never knew his father . thats the part im worried about what will keep him away . I know i am now looking at a weapon for the house thought i would never need one but i am getting older and am only good for the first few minutes you know .
Well tonight was rough we had found pawn tickets in her purse a few days ago and we retrieved her High School ring and a few more we bought her . She was screaming at us to get out the stuff her boyfriend bought her and we refused . I bought her a new car 2 weeks ago and told her she would have to make the payments to build her credit she is on the loan . So there is no money left after her 20 hour a week check pays for car , insurance and fuel . I allways fill in what is needed so no jewelery will be got out . Hot temper she has she told us not to talk to her LOL. A 21 year old being 10 i love it i am stronger willed .
bluestang, You, your daughter & your family are in our prayers. Your story sounds very familiar, we went through the same thing a few years ago. Fortunately after many late nights of talking she saw the light, dumped the guy and is now happily married to a guy that treats her like a princess.
I pray your story turns our as well as ours did. I know things looked very dark for us for a long time, and turned out O.K. Keep the faith and keep communications open at all cost. Sounds like you are doing things right. Keep doing what you can and put the rest in God's hands.
Pro Thank you i keep asking God for help and guidence we cant do this alone . I.m so glad to hear your daughter came out with the right decision . So many are like my daughter and following the heart instead of a straight thinking mind .
His mom i think is also concerned and texted us saying she was still contacting him . She is sending to Cali. when he gets out of physco ward and him being away i know they wont make personal contact .
Hang in there Bobby. I know what you means about guns. They are a mixed blessing, but a 18.5 inch pump remington shot gun makes for a good home defense weapon. I worked nights for 5 years, so I bought one and trained my wife how to shoot and load it. It's a sad world when we feel the need for this kind of protection, yet it's reassuring to have as well!
The pawn thing must of really been hard to see. Keep us updated, and hang in there.
Steve.
Prayers and thoughts to you. Hope this gets corrected for you quickly.
The Police are trying to get the state to take over . Det. said we are going in front of a Grand Jury today so they can see the major damage he caused and hopefully get Felony Battery charges placed against him even with out my daughter pressing charges .. . I posted a pic at the hamb of her surgery and they closed the thread immeadiatly , They let them pm me though , man i.m so distraught right now i have never lost control of my life like it is at the moment . The Detetive told my daughter yesterday he would high 5 my 2 sons for what they did but the law says they will have to be arrested also for vandalism . He did say he would let them I bond out , but the middle boy who is 27 has been in trouble i dont know what his outcome will be . He did say he didnt do any damage but he was waiting on BF to comeout to kick some A. I know i wont let him stay in jail for this .
We have someone who is a counsler and is going to try and help my daughter she said it will be pro bono . Now that is a true American Heart .
I am 52 and never missed work but this is my second week off . My wife wants to move out off state its so bad . She tried to return to work yesterday and they sent her back home and told her maybe monday .
Hang in there buddy!! dont let the anger eat at you, sounds like the state has got your back and gonna make good on this, just take it one day at a time brother, youll get through this.